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daters which did not even appear on the top ten list of the casual daters. Different values were reported by twice as many casual daters as involved daters. Those who remain are those with whom they share similar values. It is not surprising the ?involved? daters report fewer differences in values. Honesty was also reported as a relationship problem by a higher percentage of casual daters (7.5% vs. 4.2%)?(Zusman and Knox 1-3).

*The Break-Up Of a Relationship

?One hundred-and-seventy two undergraduates at a large southern university completed a confidential questionnaire about how they ended their last love relationship . While prior research has focused on ?why? partners end relationships, this study investigated ?how? partners ended their relationships. Over eighty-six percent of the respondents had a specific conversation with the partner about ending the relationship. Previous research suggests that such directness, which may involve de-escalation is associated with remaining friends after the love relationship has ended. The positive implication of such directness is suggested. The data consisted of 246 undergraduates at East Carolina University who voluntarily completed a confidential questionnaire designed to reveal how they ended their most recent love relationship. Of the respondents, 67% were female and 33% were male. Sixty-nine percent were freshmen and sophomores and 31% were juniors and seniors. Eighty-two percent of the respondents reported that they had been in love; fifty eight percent were currently in love. Seventy percent or 172 reported that they ended their last love relationship and how they did so. Of these 172,51 were male and 121 were female. ?College students tended to tell their partners directly, either face-to-face or on the phone, when they were ending the relationship. Science tells us that 18 months to three years after the first moment of infatuation, is not unusual for feelings of neutrality for one’s love partner to set in (?Why don’t you take out the trash?” vs. “I dream about you all the time”) For many there could be a chemical explanation. The mix of dopamine, norepinephrine and PEA is so much like a drug, say scientists, that it

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takes greater and greater doses to get the same buzz. So after someone has been with one person for a time, his (or her) brain stops reacting to the chemicals because it is habituated. ‘ the brain can’t maintain the revved-up status,’ says Walsh. ‘ As happens with any drug, it needs more PEA to make the heart go pitter-patter. Couples with attachments that are shaky for other reasons (money woes, abuse, irreconcilable differences) may part and –because the body’s tolerance for PEA soon diminishes–seek someone new with whom to find the thrill of early love. More likely, however, committed couples will move on to what science suggests is the most rewarding and enduring aspect of love. Though the same addictive rush isn’t involved, ongoing physical contact, not just sex, helps produce endorphins, another brain chemical, and continued high doses of oxytocin. Endorphins calm the mind and kill anxiety. Both chemicals are like natural opiates and help stabilize the couple by inducing what famed obstetrician Michel Odent, of London’s Primal Health Research Center (whose book, The Scientification of Love, will be published this year), calls ” a drug-like dependency.? (Knox, Zusman and

Nieves 1-3).

Discussion

It is true that many college students will face a number of challenges while in the dating arena. Many students will choose a love mate that is similar to them in character, personality, moral beliefs, and values. Each relationship will be different for each couple. Some women may meet someone who seems to be a good partner but the results may turn out differently. Although it was not mentioned above, many couples will be confronted with issues about sexually transmitted diseases such as AIDS, herpes, syphilis, chylmidia and many other sexually transmitted diseases. ?Finally shyness, unwanted pressure to engage in sexual behavior, and acceptance were among the top ten relationship problems identified by casual daters which did not even appear as issues among involved daters. Apparently, involved daters are more comfortable with each other, are more respective/less sexually exploitative, and feel greater acceptance than partners who only date each other casually? (Zusman and Knox 1-3). Many students many be confronted with the issues of letting go of a love-relationship with a partner while other students will obtain and maintain relationships that will be nurturing and prosperous.

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Conclusion

Many students experience love at first sight, which can result from the brain’s chemicals and hormones in the body. Many students may become infatuated or become over exasperated with feelings as they meet someone who is new to them in which they find a mutual attraction. Some students will face break-up issues and the issues of sex and sexually transmitted diseases. “? But in the end.., will love’s mysteries ever unravel in a laboratory? Some, like Fallon, say yes. Others, perhaps most of us luck enough to have experienced true love, might believe–and wish–otherwise. Even in this advanced age of science, where we can transplant organs, map the human genome and clone our own offspring, we still have not come close to understanding what, exactly, ignites our spark of life, our souls, our very being. Maybe, possibly, that will remain true for the farthest reaches of love?(Knox, Zusman, and Nieves 3).

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